I WROTE THIS 8 years ago. Some of it still applies, some not. Just getting back to alt after a very long time away............... I,m submissive at heart, as I have discovered in my journey in the alt lifestyle. It has struck me that I have been this way my whole life. As I look back I remember things and I am like, "Ah, that is what that was." My submissiveness. I am a late bloomer and it has taken some trials and tribulations in finding out what I want. |
First my Master/Dom must have an awesome sense of humor. As well as pleasing each other we have to be able to make each other laugh and laugh at each other. I don't want a Dom who can't laugh at himself.
I have a very hectic life and I am in control in all parts of my life at all times. So, I can not be someones 24/7. It isn't possible.
What I do want is a Dom that understands that I have a crazy life but is willing to work around that and help guide me when I need it. One who will also take me away from it all in OUR private time. Knowing that I am his pet at all times even when life is crazy and that he is my Master. Those two things are never forgotten.
A Dom/Master who understands that my submission IS A GIFT and not be abused.
A Dom/Master who does not share. I do not want to be shared or share my Master.
A Dom who will punish me when I need it and sometimes when I don't. But always even during the punishments show me affection. Long deep kisses, stroking my hair or face, telling me that I am his good girl and his loving pet.
I always know that pleasing my Master is important and I am a pleaser...for I am submissive. But I also want a Master who remembers that my pleasure is as important as his. For I have been with some who forget that part.
And for most I want trust and honesty. In this type of relationship if you don't have those, then it can't happen. And you have to be able to compromise. Be a little flexible..sorry...though I am submissive and want a Master/Dom, he is one that will have to understand that my life is hectic. But, if I care for him and he meets my needs and makes me happy, I am his and I will do everything in my power to please him and make him happy.