Silver6003 61/M Standard Member LONDON, United Kingdom 0 from you Last Visit: Within last 3 months

HI I'm Silver I'm left-wing working class kinky and proud I think that sums up me . I'm a switch ( I only sub on a blue moon or Birthday I've been in the whole London BDSM/ fetish club scene for 10 years . So I've seen many profiles about what a Dom is . Well I'm putting up what I'm not as a Dom and my ideas of what a dom isn't Yes I know i'm down as a switch . However How did I learn about being Dom? ..Yes its an artform and skill imo . Easy ...I was sub to damn Good Dommes Learn from Quality you learn well It sticks with you. As a sub i learnt so much about being Dominant . Then you can adapt what you've learnt and create your Own Style ...Mine I call a sensual Dom All you subs/switches out there notice I've not told you what You will be doing as my sub . That comes after lengthy discussions. After all A Dom/sub dynamic is built on Chemistry , Respect .trust and a little known and mentioned word Empathy So here are my ideas of what a Dom IS NOT and What A true Dominant will not do A true dom does not dom by force. no punishment meted out for being naughty etc Oh I can punish but not with force ....Never dom when angry, I was taught. Domming is a pure energy A true dom will not advertise the fact they dom ...No title of Dom/Sir/Master Lord I even seen on here Really ????? My philosophy. A good Dom is seen and not heard. Think about it for a few minutes does it make sense to you ? A true Dom/me will not have exposed genitalia pics on their profile ....No self respecting Dom/me Needs or will do that ...Yes I do include female Dommes ...I told you i got taught by great Dommes A true dom does not control their sub unless its TPE 24/7. That's the exception ( its not for me btw) You do not control a sub. The sub gives up control a huge difference Also keep this in mind ...A domineering person is not dominant How /why do i make these statements ? 1) They are views held not just by me but many of my fet friends mostly female it has to be said 2) I've seen a list and now have a copy written by a female sub on here its titled "10 points to see if he's an arsehole or a dom " I've been encouraged to share them with any one who wants them 3) Lately i'm coming across too many victims of idiots who think they know what they are doing when playing with newbies and end up Physically hurt Once again I re-iterate Domming especially with impact play is a skill and artform You have to know what you are doing .......I do because I was on the other end as a sub for 6 years . 4) Never play without a safeword A true Dom will give you one "Purple " is mine Yes lots can be written about this but any initial play please have a safeword in your head . Use this as a rule ....No safeword No play .....Any true Dom will give you a safeword So That's me I'm omni present in the London fet scene All my friends on here I know or at least have spoken on some kind of social media . What am i looking for ? Everything ,nothing ,something I really don't know Who knows However I tend to bump into lots of things If you are new I can enlighten you Come and chat if you want If you jaded well I certainly can introduce you to a whole heap of new people . Fancy opening up your kink circle ?