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Joie_deVivre  
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Member Since: February 19, 2018

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Information:
Gender:   Man
Birthdate:   January 4, 1983
(41 years old)
Astrological Compatibility
Lives in:   Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States
Relocate?:   Maybe/Yes
Height:   6 ft 0 in / 182-185 cm
Body Type:   Average
Smoking:   I'm a non-smoker
Drinking:   I don't drink at all
Drugs:   Prefer not to say
Education:   Associate degree (2 years college)
Race:   Mixed
Sexual Orientation:   Bi-sexual
Speaks:   English
Hair Color:   Brown
Hair Length :   Medium
Eye Color :   Brown
Glasses or Contacts :   None


LifeStyle
I think about ALT lifestyle:   Prefer not to say
Role:   Dominant
Level of Experience:   Whole adult life
Dress:   Casual
Social Orientation :   Not applicable
Safe Sex:   Prefer not to say
Demeanor:   Prefer not to say

Personal
Male Endowment: Average/
Average
Circumcised: Yes
Occupation: Therapist
Religion: Buddhist/Taoist

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41 year old Man in Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States Looking For: Men, Women, Couples (man/woman), Couples (2 men), Couples (2 women), Groups or Trans

Profile for Joie_deVivre
My working name is Sun Joie deVivre. I am an exceptionally diverse massage therapist with over 21 massage modalities and counting. In learning the intricacies associated with my profession, I have developed a 10-year fascination with delivering pain and pleasure simultaneously. That is to say that I am most-definitely a top personality, although, I switch with the right people. My last relationship was 8-years long with the last 5 being exclusive. As of today, about a week after Valentine’s, I am six weeks out of that relationship and ready to put myself back into the BDSM community. I haven’t been in Minnesota for a while, so I’m looking to build a fresh, new social network. I own an athletic-injury/medical massage clinic that emphasizes the mind-body connection, and it just so happens that my techniques work wonders for BDSM prep and/or recovery. I know this because I am a sadist who takes a vested interest in the health of my subs. What I’d like to find here is three-fold: -First and foremost, I am looking for . I can fill my work hours with athletic types all day long, but I really enjoy working with people who are honest. In my experience, BDSM-types are the most honest. -Secondly, I don’t have any subs any more since my last favorite got possessive (for about 5 years). Before you say anything, she gave me everything I needed and had no limits aside from bloodletting, so I let her own her exclusivity as a reward. -Lastly, I am always looking for people who are willing to teach me nuances that I don’t already know. Likening myself to a shaman, I am a life-long student of all proper rumination. I paid for you to be able to contact me. If you feel compatible on at least one of these three, let me know. Subs that want them receive weekly massages, provided there isn’t a physical reason why it isn’t medically advised. Day trips, weekends, and vacations are rewards I like to give as well . Honesty and respect are paramount with me. Whatever your preferred kinks are, I will reward your honesty with them. Whatever you consider a “soft limit” will be explored as retribution for lying or disrespect. By definition, hard limits are off limits for as long as they are hard limits. I can be as gentle as a babbling brook or as fierce as a class 9 waterfall. It just depends on what you like cross-referenced with what you've earned. As an empath, I draw my pleasure from the experience of others, so if you’re not happy with your treatment, neither am I. It’s crazy, right? An empath AND a sadist? Yeah, I haven’t met one besides myself, although I suspect they're out there. Anyway, you made it this far, which means you are at least someone piqued. Contact me now and you’ll get to see my less cordial side. Mind you, I’ll be able to see if it’s the first time you read this when you contact me, so do it now; the first time. Also, I should mention that arrogant and defiant subs are welcome so long as it is mutually understood that your behavior is not intended as disrespect. If you bounce back and forth between submissive and defiant at your own will, then you are never truly submissive. However, I do respect a sub who is consistent and predictable in their bucking of my authority. This year, my personal growth goal is to learn somatic psychotherapy, which means – as my sub – you may be subject to holotropic breathwork, shadow integration therapy, and “learning martial arts as a means of therapy” in addition to the typical intimate aspects of a Ds relationship. Holotropic breathwork carries the risk of asphyxiation, and shadow integration therapy explores all the dark corners of your subconscious and will likely be psychologically uncomfortable as I grow into knowing how to perform it flawlessly. The martial arts in question are Wing Chun and Aikido, both of which are relatively new to me as well. If you think any of this isn’t for you, then let me know when we are setting the perimeters of our relations. Should we move forward, I will respect your hard limits as if they are my own. To date, I understand (to some degree) Traditional Chinese Medicine, Japanese Anma, Thai Traditional Medicine, Ayurveda, and Allopathy. I am a two-year devout Daoist, which means I’m hardly a Daoist, but I’m trying. Outside of Daoism, I’m more of a nihilist; meaning I question everything and decide for myself what I want to believe. This tends to make me socially awkward as I am either tight-lipped in respectful observation, or I am trying learn something; I don’t spend much time just “shooting the shit”. If you’re looking for a long-term relationship you should know that I try not to spend my time in social environments that are boisterous unless the energy is cleanly unified. I can handle concerts with a unified energy, and I can handle dungeons and what not, but a standard club or bar overloads my system and I have unpredictable reactions. So, if you like clubbing or bar hopping, go be yourself with your friends and catch up with me some other time. I don’t even care if you regularly wind up in someone's scene unless you've accepted a collar. Just don’t lie to me about it. You should also know that I indulge in cannabis concentrates, but not much else. I’ll take any quality cannabis, I’ll drink once in a blue moon, and – I greatly enjoy vanilla sex on acid – but that’s it. And, the acid is few-and-far-between. Anything you want to experience, or anywhere in the US you want to go, we can make that happen. Outside of the US, there are a few places I’ll likely never be able to afford to send you, but – for the most part – it’ll be doable if you earn it. The way I work is this: We will have an open discussion that may take a little over an hour, or may stretch out over a few weeks. When you and I have all the details worked out, we will put them to paper and I will have it notarized simply so we have an official copy to settle arguments between us. The details will cover what we each expect to get out of the relationship, how we expect to get it, how long it is expected to take, and “what is what” in terms of limits and rewards/retribution. Small rewards come when you give me what I want. Big rewards come when I feel you’ve achieved one of your personal goals. The opposite goes for retribution. If you fail yourself, I care less about that than if you fail me. That way, I off-set the psychological effect of failure by rewarding you. For instance, you can fail a bar exam and I’ll still pay for a weekend trip to the coast with one of your boyfriends so long as you’re good to me, or you can be a defiant sub who earned a trip to Paris in the spring by passing the bar. Whatever the case is, I don’t believe in "denying massage" as retribution, so – even if I don’t think you’ve been particularly well behaved – if you want massage, you’ll get massage. Outside of that, everything is fair game except for putting things inside my dick. Tried sounding twice and decided it's a hard limit for me. Well, that’s it in a nutshell. Contact me now if you feel it might be worth it. [if254 1]

My Ideal Person:
I like having a slurry of people who give me implicit trust to "fuck" with their energies for pseudo-scientific research. I'm not trying to change the world; I just want to explore my own beliefs and determine what I consider to be true. No matter what your kinks are, I accept that you know what you like and what you want to explore, and I am perfectly fine with providing that for you... well, except if you want to sound me; that's the one hard limit which I've found through experience.

I like jute over satin. I like suede over leather or polyethylene. I like surgical steel over stainless. And, above all else, I like honesty over deception.

If I feel you have tried to deceive someone, I seek retribution. If I feel you've been honest, I reward with whatever activities I feel you've grown to enjoy or want to experience. If it is something I'm not particularly good at delivering for you, and you express implicit trust in me, I will loan you out to someone more experienced in that particular set of kinks. Why? Because I want you to be happy.

I don't just want to take from you. I mean, yes; to the vanilla, that is exactly what it may look like, but that is not my intent. Mutual growth is my intent.

I do need to warn you though, part of my dichotomy is that I am a chronic stoner for months at a time. When I am one, I am perfectly tolerable. When I'm not, I am also perfectly tolerable. The issue comes about a week at a time if I suddenly find myself without a supplier. Medically-speaking, it is seratonin withdrawal. Seratonin is dubbed the "feel good" hormone and is biosynthesized from THC at about 7,000-times the normal levels when a person uses quality concentrates (less so with other forms of ingestion, but still in the thousands). Naturally, if I don't get the opportunity to properly transition from stoner-to-not, I fall into a deep depression that can be likened to suicidal depression. It doesn't happen often, but I am aware of when it is about to happen and tend to warn my people.

I don't care about looks, but I'd be lying if I said I don't have a type. I actually have three, and they can be summed up as Emily Browning, Ryan Gosling, and Meagan Martin. Don't sweat it, though. What I like most about them is that you can look at them and instantly know they have the fortitude to be disciplined with their health. As long as you have the desire to eat well and exercise, I'm here to help you reach the best state of being you can achieve.


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