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Kreavitly Kit

Art Journal/ written journal

Submissives... Dominates... Blow Jobs
Posted:Jun 9, 2021 6:52 pm
Last Updated:Mar 22, 2023 6:33 am
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Why is how a sub/ slave approaching a Dom/Master when it comes giving a blow job so important? Just like when you meet someone new, you talk, your body language, appearance and even attitude all are combined make a first impression. With each meeting you leave more of an impression, over time these impression put together an overall view of you as a potential friend, companion, lover ect, This is all well and good but what does it have to do with how one approaches a Dominate for a blow job.. in this case giving one. I would hope a Dominant would not let a submissive give him a blow job unless he trust them... this build up of impressions, in a sence it allows the Dominate decide if They can trust a submissive with one oh his prized bodily possessions. We also know that each relationship being BDSM lifestyle or some other kind, each has there own dynamic and usually in some way whether or not we like it... a power exchange to some level. A submissive's approach to shows their level and willingness to give their power to the Dominate for their pleasure, needs and desires. Lets just admit it, most Dominates desire that blow job. this being said what He does not want is a half ass blow job and a submissive's approach to the blow job let alone to him sends him signals whether nor not they are truly submitting to him or not even if it is just for giving the blow job. A submissive is a giver and a Dominate is a receiver when it comes to most blow jobs, there fore at time I will refer to each as such. An approach to any thing can be taken as a sign as what is to come, whither it is good or bad and sometime it becomes a surprise as at end result. Hint just because the Dominate cums does not always means it was a good blow job and a bad start does not always mean in the end it was not a good blow job. However a good approach can help set things toward a good start to a blow job, fallow through is also important.. but might be a subject for another time. A good approach can set the tone and mood so can a bad approach, the later with results that does not please the submissive or the Dominate in the end. This approach may also be an indicator of a need or desire more then just submission to a Domination but a desire from within that neither may not be aware of such as that of putting ones needs and desire aside for that of another.
In this discussion I would like to cover areas when it come the approach and then cover how the blow job be done. Each of these areas will have sub area with in it. First is the approach when asking permission with sub area of non verbal and verbal with a brief discussion on preparations be for the actual approach. Second will be the approach when asked at the time and when when given at time a a later point. Any examples given in this paper are my thoughts and or beliefs, am open discussing this but needs be done respectfully... but the I am getting ahead of myself. Of course if there is an approach then then better be a fallow though, nothing worse then not doing what you say or even ask do. Remember even the relationship between a giver and receiver must be built on a foundation of respect and trust for with out what is be shall not be. I am not saying even with the best intentions, plans fall through for many reason were it is not the givers nor the receivers fault, such as sudden illness or injury. Both people need understand this and not hold it against the other. One other quick thought be fore we really begin, the giver need focus on the receive and that same with the receiver focusing on the giver, So thinking about the person who pissed you off that day not thinking of the person down the street you have the hots for, focus on what and who its there in that moment... nothing worst then feeling that the other is not truly in that time with you both physically and mentally. Ok, I lied there is one other thing that is extremely important is communication. I would suggest both people sit down and discuss their needs, desires and exception in the very lest, because it is key the enjoyment of both and understand any limitations ether might have be it physical or metal. I just thought of another things, consistency. No does not mean do the same things the same way all the time in the case, in this case we are talking about being consistent in improving. Givers when talking with your receiver ask nicely if there is something you can work on make it better and if you can think out side of the box once in a while both in your approach and in the blow job itself, with the understanding if one or both don’t like it then toss it to the curb.. the idea not the giver or receiver.. a good cock or pussy is a bad thing to waste. Next thing is being flexible, again this applies to both giver and reviver. In this case, receiver please be flex able even if you want the blow job right not, but she is cooking your food... please be flexible enough to let her finish, that blow job could always happen while your eating and giver your not out of the wood on this ether... if he wants a blow job at that very moment and your not doing anything that can not wait by all means give the blow job. One last thing on this not only be flexible and caring if other is hurt, sick or other wise not able to enjoy the blow job, change cruse and help them get better to were they can. Inflexibility lead to demands which often leave one or the other with hurt feelings for lack of respect for the other person involved. All of this can not be made to benefit both with out good communications. With all this said let move on to a great question, How should the subject be approached? When we first start down the road of any relationship as adults, it starts with talking, getting to know the many likes and dislikes that should be no different with this subject at hand … well or mouth... The subject should never be approached in anger or malice, if there is to be improvement in need to be approach in a kind and caring way as not to hurt the other person. This could not be more true then with sex, or oral sex or any such subject. These can often become hurtful if not handled in the right way, starting off with the understand that the conversation is meant to help with improving the in enjoyment of both. So you have talked and understand the give and take of such a wonderful thing and the expectations and well known to both... Now what? We put it into practice or is there more we might what to think about? Remember nether one is a mind reader, so all things need to be discussed openly be for setting things in motion.
Wait, preparations might be need to take this approach and blow job to the next level.. often times thing are butter even with a little preparation and your partner should be able to tell the difference. From here we will be talking more about the giver's (sub's) side of things. Ok, you want to give a blow job or he has stated he wants one, is there time to prepare for it, if so how might you go about that? As I see there are some very basic things you can do, and often times they are things we do in our everyday hum drum part of our lives. Most of the receivers I know do not want a blow job from a dirty givers, although there might just be a fetish for that... never know, just not my thing. Shower or a bath is a must, maybe some soft scented perfume... but don’t bath in it... remember scents can attract and can overwhelm... sometime less is better. Maybe some light makeup, hair done nicely... whatever makes you feel sexy... this is important. A Dominate can well when we feel sexy and I like to think it adds to the turn on for them too. Physically ready, how about mentally ready? Mental preparation is also important because you can be physically ready and not be mentally ready, which means the blow job will not be as good as it could have been. Before approaching the Dominate it is good to distress from those things going on around you, meditation, visualization, possessive thoughts, yes even a day dream will help you. Clear your head from everything but the Dominate and the blow job, this is you moment with them. So physically and mentally ready, but can we make it even better? Yes we can! Set a mood! Change out the pain light bulb in the lamp add a colored one.. maybe red for excitement or blue for tranquility? Create a list fitting the mood you are creating, something with a hard beat if you going for a rock your world blow job, something soft for a lets take this slow and enjoy blow job, or mix it up for a more unpredictable blow job. So now hopeful our preparations are done what now? Well there are a few different kinds of approach depending on who is asking and timing.
Lets talk about when the submissive is doing the asking for permission. This can go ways, at the moment asking and asking ahead of time. Ether way the sub should approach respectfully, this could include kneeling in front of them with eyes lowered but head up and asking permission speak (for those Dominates that require this). Another way might be stand in parade rest (legs apart hands clasped behind your back), again with eyes lower and head up, and wait for acknowledgment, then approach and kneel, then go from there as stated above. What if a submissive needs ask before hand and needs do it over the phone, by or email? I am glad I thought of this.. never thought of it until writing this paper. I did some telemarketing when I was younger (yes I was once one of those annoying callers.. I did trying make it not so annoying.. but I digress), one thing it taught was when on the phone was use a pleasant voice, smile and do not use slang words. I truly believe they can tell when you don't. I think maybe treating the phone call as though they are their with you could be a good idea, so kneeling with eyes lowered... remember this is a show of respect the Dominate.... speak clearly and respectfully... no blurting I want give you a knob job tonight during dinner, this comes out demanding and disrespectful to the Dominate. Something more like... Sir, girl would like to respectfully request permission to give You a blow job while You eat dinner. Sounds easy right... not always when the words don’t come out as you wish them to.. maybe practicing different ways will help before making the call. close attention you voice tone-age and wording they can send the wrong message to the Dominate. What if you have been requested not to tal.. this is were non-verbal communication comes in. remember a Dominate is not a mind reader but most do read body language. Now this can be both fun and frustrating, practice might be needed, asking the Dominate how one might do this might help too. Here are a few of my ideas: while kneeling before the Dominate keeping your eyes lowered while you head is at his crouch level, while snuggling... place your head in his lap with yous face towards his crouch and maybe sweetly looking up at him once in a while then back towards his manhood, cuddling in bed could be simply sliding down and giving little kisses here and there working slowly down until just above the hair line then just around until the Dominate says it is ok go further. This leads us texting and emails. A few notes on this would be, do not abbreviate words or use emotes (Smiley face type things). Keep it simple unless beginning, remember the Dominate maybe be doing something or at work, be patent for the reply, bugging them over and over is not respectful and you could be died as a punishment and for those of us that love giving blow job … that is a true punishment and at the same time because of your actions, the dominate is denying Himself a pleasure also. Special note remember you body is a visual attraction (and in an essence a vessel for the Dominate and needs be presented in a way that is pleasing them), resent yourself in accordance the Dominates wishes... this is also needs be talked about a head of time because it is important and not just for the blow job. What if the Dominate has requested a blow job?
First big thing is respect his wishes and if for some reason it can not be for filled at the time it is requested, in a respectful manner explain the situation and why you fill you can not do it at that time. We shall cover situations, when the request is in the moment and when the request is give ahead of time. So he requested a blow job, do you drop your knees and give him the blow job and lets the food burn that you were cooking at that time and the water over run in the sink that you were washing as you made dinner? I hope this situation would not happen, but what if the submissive is busy when the Dominate makes their request? Here again communication is key, talking about such issues could save a lot of frustration on both sides. With dynamics between Dominates and their submissive varying as much as they do and changing over time, I can only state what I might do as a submissive. Remember subjects such as this can be revisited as things change as the D/s couple fines other things that work and some that did not work as well as they hoped, communication and more communication. Asking questions like; am I allowed finish what I am doing if it is important... like keeping food from burning etc, as long as I do it in a timely manner or do I have stop what I am doing... as soon as I turn the burners of the stove off? What happens if I am not ready by Your stated time? This way the submissive know how to respond when the situation arises (no pun intended). So they have stated their wishes, how would you proceed? Are you naked or not naked and should you be? Do you just drop to your knees and go for it? Some may be good with this. These are again something to ask them about. Here is another opinion: one could gracefully get down on their knees and crawl to the Dominate like a cat, showing they are your Owner/ Dominate and their wishes are to be fallowed. Here again communication is important so expectations are clear and misunderstanding are kept to a minimum. What if he tell you ahead of time?
This presents a whole new set of expectations that need to be discussed ahead of time, again so frustrations and misunderstanding are kept to a minimum and a positive experience is had by both. My thoughts are that a submissive need to plan for this one, keeping in mind time restraints, because chores and other daily stuff still have to be done also. Given the dominate has given the submissive time to prepare, I would think their expectations would be even higher then a quicky blow job at spur of the moment. A few things they might expect are: the submissive to be clean, neat, and able to present herself pleasantly to them both physically and mind set. They might also look at has the submissive set thing up things for both their comforts during the blow job? So the time for the blow job has arrived is the submissive ready?
When it comes to a blow jobs most Dominates like them, however not all do (yes I have met one or ... my disappointment). Again communication is need about this. Nor do they all like them done the same way, and yes some are a bit more picker about them.. understand they have their reasons. So submissive remember if the Dominate says they don’t care for something your doing, don’t take it personally it could be something such as an injury or a past experience that went bad (Dominates can get flash backs too) that keeps them from enjoying it. Lets recap a bit. The submissive has done their chores, cleaned themselves up, dressed or undress according to directions from the Dominate (if them were given) set the mood, prepared the food that was asked for and it is ready to be served (if they wanted food while receiving the blow job), your pillow to kneel on is in it's place (if allowed not all Dominates do), mentally prepared, the greeting is pleasant and warm, their place to set is clean and comfortable (or with in reason), their stuff is quickly put away neatly, their food is served at the proper temperature... the time has come!
My approach to this after talking to my Dominate about this subject would go something like this... After serving Him his meal, girl quietly lowers herself to the floor on to all fours and crawls to her pillow (she is already naked according to His wishes)and kneels before His legs. Girl lightly runs her fingers from the tips of his shoes up his calves and thighs as she take in the feel of His jeans and His sent. Girl is for sure wet buy this point excitement almost over baring, she is sure He came smell her too. As girl reaches the top of His jeans, she can feel His leather belt that has left a welt or on her bum, she squirms as she starts undo it's buckle. Girl fumbles with the zipper as she usually did with her rising excitement, for she know what lies beneath. She reaches down into his now unzipped jeans, feeling for those things that make up his manhood, carefully she brings them out. She could just devour them but she shows restraint, carefully cups her hand under His balls and starts caressing and lightly squeezing them. girl leans forward and kisses the base of His shaft then works her way up kissing and licking as she continues working His balls, girl drools a bit at she reach the mushroom shaped head, she moans softly as her lips slip over it. girl starts teasing the head as she sucks, she then plugs down in to His shaft lightly gagging upon it length, her air passage cut off by its girth, she breaths heavily threw her nose. Tears wells up in her yes as she tries to take more then pulls back up for relief, her paces picks up to match her heat beat that races as he shifts giving the girl more room to wor She work in a frenzy like pace as the wan-tingly desire taste His cum in her mouth, financially He for fills her desires as He explodes in her wanting mouth. Girl takes every drop into her mouth not wasting a drop, for waiting it would be disrespectful. Girl kneels back and waits for Him to say, you may swallow. Which she does when directed. Good girl He says, now you may eat your dinner. Girl crawls back out with her pillow and goes to serve her self dinner. That is how I visualize one of many possibilities.
As we can see a submissive can approach a Dominate about a blow job in many ways, the main thing is do it respectfully and show honor to the Dominate at the same time... and have fun. Remember to communicate, listen closely to each other, and next time it could be even better then the last one. A few other thoughts; respect the Dominate and the blow job, never do it half assed always do your best, even though most do not like a sloppy kiss, some sloppy blow Jobs can be good depending on the sloppiness, this should be enjoyed both by the Dominate and submissive (unless used for a punishment which I person do not think is a good idea), be pleasing, and most of all have some fun! Oh and try something new once in a while it is boring giving and receiving the same blow job.

Happy Blow Jobing!!!!
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just a thought or two
Posted:Jan 2, 2020 4:19 pm
Last Updated:Nov 9, 2021 1:00 am
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If the soul and spirit are entities joined together at the moment of conception and there is such a thing as a soulmate could there such a thing as spiritmate? If there can be then is it possible to find a match for both ones a single person? It is already hard to find your soulmate as it it but it would be even harder to find your spiritmate in the person, right? Think of how big our world is and how many people are it, and now they say it is possible there are other lifeforms in our galaxy and what if they also require a soul and a spirit??? what if they use the souls and spirit we do??? would it not make the chances of not fining the double match even higher? could we then compare it BD/SM relations and a vanilla ? soulmates would be like the married , spiritmates like a BDSM , a double match be an M/S ?... just a thought
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i am me and only me
Posted:Aug 16, 2019 7:48 am
Last Updated:Dec 19, 2019 12:38 pm
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The sunsets on yet another day, her body is tired.
chores and projects are done, but yet she pushes on.
she readys the home for the night, making sure things are locked up.
Here she sits and writes, this night the words do not come.
she sighs heavily, she looks at her hands at the keyboard and they don't move.
She looks at the blank screen wishing it would fill with magical words or any words.
Finally, she gets up and walks to the middle of the room then kneels down.
Her bottom resting lightly on the heels of her feet, with her legs drawn closed.
She places her hand's palms down on her thigh, lower her eyes and closes them.
She slows her breathing to a claiming pace, Slowly letting her body relax
She allows her mind to slow down its thoughts of the day
Fading away are those things she can not do today, replaces with visions of color and peaceful energy.
Her mind wonders of things unknown and feelings long forgotten
She listens to the sounds of those things around her in time with each other as though this moment was a performance by a grand orchestra.
Time eludes her as she kneels, it is then the words come to her.
She returns to her keyboard and writes, ...I am me and only me... the end
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creature of the night
Posted:Aug 4, 2019 7:24 am
Last Updated:Jan 27, 2020 7:12 am
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Oh endless night, let the dreams not end, for one fears
they shall not become reality
Dreams of the One, who can fulfill the lust within, deeper then any has gone
Those the dreams not told tucked away deep, those needs untouched
forgot yet unforgotten, yearned for but denied self-will
light of day only brings reminder those dreams are but faded and touchable
but when night comes, hope returns in those dreams of desires untold
Hold off eternal rest for the dreams could still come true if only the One was to finds this wanting creature of endless dreams
Hold fast this creature does to those dreams deep within her soul, only to be unleashed but the the One can capture and tame the wild spirit hidden deep within the soul itself
for no other will do, just the One who holds her dreams and yet hold her night terrors too
oh endless night you know of what one speaks, the dreams and terrors in one
which scares the creature yet excites her like the smell of blood draws her to feast yet horrifies her to bite
The thirst never ends, the rest never comes, oh but the dreams and terrors ever end but someday they will be one and the same bring nothing but purest of pleasures to this creature of the night
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Going beyond
Posted:Aug 1, 2019 8:37 pm
Last Updated:Mar 25, 2020 7:28 am
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beyond the domestic part of me.
can you truly see the complexity of who me is
Can you see the passion the rages within?
can you hear the primal cries fo the mountain lioness that is caged here?
Can you feel the raging storm of passion swirling about like a tornado touching down?
can you see the wanting ?
can you feel her desire for the pain only one can give her by his hand alone?
can you hear her heavenly screams of delightful pain?
can you tell she is some much more than you know?
can you see, really see her world?
can you taste what it is to be her. wantings, desires, even her fears?
can you touch her innermost secrets and keep them safe, even when she can not?
can you lift her up to touch the on a cloudy ?
can you draw her back when her head is in the clouds when the thunder rolls?
can you see her for who and what she really is?
then you know she is much more than just a domestic sub/ goddess.
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from the other day, not finished
Posted:May 26, 2019 3:30 pm
Last Updated:Aug 4, 2019 7:25 am
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hope this works, Alt decided it needs to be sideways LOL
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Frist quick paint
Posted:May 26, 2019 7:16 am
Last Updated:Mar 18, 2024 8:16 pm
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Sometimes paint just flow out like words on a page.
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working with
Posted:May 25, 2019 9:35 am
Last Updated:Jan 4, 2020 1:57 pm
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working with paints, texture... always pushing to do past what i have done before,,, pushing for the next goal, that next thing i did not know was in me.
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odd as odd does
Posted:May 22, 2019 9:20 pm
Last Updated:Mar 18, 2024 8:16 pm
12430 Views
all i can say this painting is a bit off for
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Sometime you just dont know
Posted:May 21, 2019 8:36 pm
Last Updated:Mar 18, 2024 8:16 pm
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sometimes when you creating, much like writing you just never know how something is going to come out.
1st one still working on, 2nd one i believe is done

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