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A Storytellers view

A little of everything and a lot of nothing.

The Meat Market
Posted:Aug 2, 2017 8:11 pm
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2017 5:48 am
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So where does a single Dom or sub go these days to meet a local opposite? I ask this because I am curious, I want to know, I am looking and not finding.

"Find a local Munch." Heard it, done that, there is one in the area and sadly I attended it both with a sub and with out and I can tell you the difference is night and day. Walked in with my sub at the time and welcomed with open arms, greeted, talked to, and brought into conversations. 6 months later walked in single and was pretty much put in a corner and told by the same person 3 times "This is not a meat market" when trying to get involved in conversations. Now, here is the most important rule about the local munch group, "Thou shalt not talk about, mention or intimate at the lifestyle in public." Yet the munch met at a Pizza Hut and a restaurant that had no private rooms or areas, so no one spoke about the lifestyle in any manner. So, all that was spoke on was what they had been doing in their lives such as work and family for the last month.. Not much room to learn anything knew, to speak on ties or techniques or to even ask about contract negotiations let alone get close to one who might not be attached because you were not supposed to talk about any of that.

So where do you go to find a potential other?
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Do you play well with others?
Posted:Aug 2, 2017 6:27 pm
Last Updated:Aug 7, 2017 8:48 am
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Ok, I know, a click baity title.. And it is though I like it. However this one does pertain to the topic.

I have over the years been friends with many dom and sub couples. I have stayed with them, I have been there to help train, I have been asked to be second to a poly family. All of that pertains simply to this, "Do you play well with other peoples submissive's?"

So, let me set the stage, a friend of mine had a sub who wanted to experience two doms having fun with her. I decided to say yes but after about 10 minutes I stepped out, this has happened before, I always step back. I have been asked to discipline others subs because the "husband/dom" couldn't risk hurting them. In the end, I step back, why? I have a real hard time doing more then talk with and spend time with submissive's who belong to others, hell lets be honest, I have issues doing scenes with subs who are not mine period.

So how well do you play with other peoples submissive/slaves? And I mean with permission as well as otherwise.
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Qoute of the day
Posted:Jul 30, 2017 8:33 am
Last Updated:Jul 31, 2017 6:18 am
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"It's only kinky if you've tried it twice," I quickly told her.

I was reading a story today, and this line just struck me as funny as hell... Yes it is a story involving the lifestyle and him playing with a vanilla person...
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Updated profile
Posted:Jul 9, 2017 3:38 pm
Last Updated:Jul 9, 2017 4:40 pm
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So, I finally updated and changed my profile. Sometimes it is fun to look back at who I was, but, at the same time? It was a bit cathartic to change things up and review myself.
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What sort of Dom am I?
Posted:May 27, 2017 7:07 pm
Last Updated:May 30, 2017 4:55 pm
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Once not so long ago, in a not so far away place I was asked what sort of Dom I considered myself. It sounded like such an easy question to answer. Yet, if that was the case then why is it so hard to give myself a definition? Perhaps it is that I don't fit many standard definitions. Let's break it down a bit. Please remember these are some examples.  
 
Sadist, one who enjoys causing or being the cause of physical or emotional pain in a submissive or slave. 
Being a person who suffered abuse for years, this is not my thing. Before you rain down the fires of hell telling me abuse is not the same thing as sadism, I know this, I had a few good friends who were sadists. But, for me, I have no desire to cause pain, leave a few marks? Yeah I am good with that, but, to leave a person a mass of welts and bruises or other marks? Not my thing.  
 
Daddy. Here we get into things like age play. While I have experimented with this, I personally did not find it to appealing. Yes, I can be a nurturing person, I can be one who guides and teaches. It is just hard for me to get into the headspace of being a "Daddy" this could be due to the few bg's I have met, left a very sour taste in my mouth.  
 
Bratt Tamer, We all know what a bratt is, we have seen them and while yes, they can be amusing, I have found I get rather annoyed quickly with this type of submissive.  
 
Gorean, A person who bases their dominance on the fictional stories of Jon Norman.  
I have read most of the books and at one time I related to them and thought I was one of these. But, reality kicked my ass. While I still hold true to some of the tenants put forth by this series I have tempored it with a touch of reality.  
 
Rigger, A person who enjoys using rope bondage in more intricate and intense patterns then just the kink of binding someone to the bed.  
Ok, I will be honest here, I just don't have the patience. I love seeing the work of a good rigger, I have yet to find someone to mentor me in learning the knots, load tolerances of different devices and such. On top of that, did I mention I have ADD? Easily distra... oh look a cat... cted. I also tend to be a bit cautious and second guess most of my ties. Perhaps that is just lack of experience.  
 
Pet Trainer, One that gets pleasure in treating and teaching humans to be animals, a form of dehumanization but some really enjoy it. 
Not big on dehumanization, also not all that much into humiliation. Though I admit, it has its place.  
 
So where does this leave me? I call myself a sensual Dom. I revel in causing sensations, be it nipple clamps and light to moderate floggings or cropping in order to heighten the sensitivity of the nerves in the skin, or the control of the clamps. I like electro stim, though I am honestly a novice in this. I am enjoying learning a single tail, it has its own emotional connotation and creates a mind set. I like to make sure my subs are emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually cared for, even if I don't personally follow their spiritual paths.  
So if I had to define my style of dominance? I am just me.. Nothing more, nothing less. 
 
 
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Who am I?
Posted:May 27, 2017 11:12 am
Last Updated:Jun 14, 2017 10:53 am
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Over the years I have been asked many questions, to this day though, one has been the hardest to answer. If I am honest with myself, and with whomever is reading this, I still don't have a definitive answer.  So, when a dear friend of mine asked me to start a blog, she swears I have something to say and people will listen, I trust her opinion, because mine is simply who would care what I have to say? With that said, here is the answer I have found so far, it's not simple, it is not complete and it is an ongoing, eternal search I think.  
 
Who am I? I am a storyteller. Not much more, not much less. I look normal, hell I am pretty much invisible in a crowd, this is intentional. I can be very lazy, I am overweight and I have a low paying job. I am a storyteller.  I grew up in the midwest, of a forced incest survivor and a rail man, neither ready to be parents and my mother wasn't but a herself when she had me. She would tell you if she was still alive, she wasn't much of a mother to me, she was still a herself in so many ways. She carried so much guilt through her short life, so much pain she never really could let go. But this isn't about her, it is about me, the storyteller. Abusive men seemed to be her crowd, those who didn't want or like . Lucky me. The state stepped in when things got out of hand, but only because my actions put someone's dreams in danger and almost killed their career. Yes, a  can destroy an adult. A few years in a state organization and I had a new family, well, not what the average person would call a family, but when you are a ward of the state, any family is better than none right? After all that is what a seeks the most, someone who loves them unconditionally. Sadly, that isn't what I got. It was at this time I was found to have a very high IQ. Don't let people scare you with that... a High IQ is nothing more than a brass plaque with "Scary Words" on it. So, high IQ and a school that didn't change their lesson plans in each step up. Needless to say when I was once asked why I didn't do anything in English class but read novels or listen to music my response was.. "When you teach me something new.. I will pay attention." I had to explain so I asked for a week or two.. It took that long to have my English text book mailed from my last school and go down to the book repository and get the English books for the last 2 years. They were amazed that they had been teaching me the same 15 chapters for three years. Even used the same book all three years. Well they wondered why Chorus seemed to be the only thing that really interested me. It was because I learned something new each quarter. 8 new songs.. It was something. So where was I? Ah yes, high IQ and not a damn bit of guidance or even a nudge into anything that interested me or caught my attention. What this meant is long term? I had almost no goals, no aspirations, and the ones I did they quickly dashed. I found role play games, yes that dreaded D&D. I got hooked. This is where I found who I was the first time. I am a storyteller.  
 
Jobs? I have had a few, injuries? I have had a few, opportunities? I have had a few. I never said they were good, just that I had a few. So where does all of this lead a man who has no aspirations, no goals and no clue what to do with his life? Not much, I mean here I am still trying to figure out who I am. I had friends in school who went on to be millionaires, had many who dashed their hopes with drugs. Other than gaining weight, losing hair and having many life experiences, I have not really changed all that much. Well, there was that first time I dated a submissive, man did I screw that up. I had no clue what made her different than other women, and what a difference it was. I tossed her to the side when another piece of candy was offered. I was young, didn't know any better, You know, all the normal excuses. In reality, I didn't think I was good enough for someone who offered that much. I spent years trying to define that feeling, to recapture that beauty. She was never bound most likely had never felt ropes or a paddle in her life, I honestly don't think even she knew she was submissive, but, that was my first step into this world. It took me years to define what it was, I didn't even know there was a word for it, let alone a lifestyle. But in reality, I shouldn't say have no goals.. I have a few, I may even talk about them someday. But, my main goal, it is so simple, it is perhaps the hardest goal ever. To be happy.. Sounds so simple, to be happy. For me to be happy, means I have to be rich, I am not talking about money here, money can come and go, but to truly be happy. We have all heard or read that quote "money may not buy happiness, but with it you can certainly afford a better class of misery." And it is true, but, it doesn't make us happy. As my mentor once told me "A man can be alone in a room filled with people, or he can be content and happy on his own. One who can be content on his own, will also be happy in a room full of people. The man who is alone in a crowd, is alone by himself..."  
 
Here we are 20+ years later, I am still finding my way. Still learning new things. Many who have either been with me, or know me best state I am a great dominant, I have dealt with people in "The Way" I have dealt with others who were raised in different forms of the lifestyle and many of them would agree with my dear one who has asked me to write a blog here. So what am I? I am a Storyteller. I am a Dom who likes to dabble in sensations. I am not really a daddy, I am not a leatherman, I surely am not a sadist. I spent the last 10 years to realize, I am just me, I am a Storyteller. Some are humorous, some scary, some fantastical, some are real and some are not. In the end, it is entertainment, but, here is what you will learn, I am a Storyteller. Whether you agree with my words, with my thoughts or not, that is up to you, whether they affect you, impact you or just piss you off, that is up to you. Will you be entertained? How should I know? I just tell the tales, pick up the pieces and tell another. I am no better, no worse than any of you. I have been down the road, turned back and then turned around and went down the same road a few times to many to get here, and honestly? Where the hell am I or better yet, where the hell am I going? 
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