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rosaenaluin 65F
9906 posts
9/18/2018 8:37 am
mental cases....


During my search and development in this cesspool, called bdsm dating...

i met my share of mad men,

There was once this man, we talked and decided we wanted to meet,
So i propos a Restaurant in my home town....

he agree, so we met,
it was a lovely sunny day, we sit at the terrace.

We talk about all kind of stuff, not so much bdsm....
he was very, very full of himself, he is The Director of this company and he had an other company, wich he sold and bla bla bla bla...
Also telling me how stupid his co workers were...

he needed the audiance. = me.....
Like all narcistic people do.

It was all about him.
I asked him about how he found out, he had dominance in him...
He was very vageu about that,
he only talked about himself, and how stupid and bad his co workers were....

He insulted the waiter, he demanded to know where he came from, this man was the head of the staff of that Restaurant,
His origine was Turkey.
he was right out rude to that man.
I felt very much ashamed to have to witness that behaviour

He also semi attacked me, there on the terrace... bodily attacked me
There were no bounderies for him
it was allllll about him, him, him..

I classify him as a narcist.

Later, he contacted me again, apparently totally forgot we met before,
just one other sign that they are in to the game and not the person.

and this time, he was the Owner of some other company,
his car was by the mechanics, because they had screwed up on some thing,
You can never trust anybody to do a decent job, he was on and on...

A very nasty piece.
Narcistic tendencies to say the least....

An other fellow, was diagnosed Autism of Asperger, without feeling the need,
right... that is the key word : feeling....
to let me know, was totally not able to feel any empathie at all
That was a very bad match...

The first person was just down right malicious, about anybody around him,
He was god, and all around him were of a lower life source...
they should be thankfull that he was willing to be in the same space as those...

You can recognise those behaviour patterns.
if you are aware of them, if you know what patterns belongs to what mental unbalance....
If you know were to look for, in his behaviour patterns

Alright, iam not a psychologist, but anybody with half a brain, can learn to define those patterns.
can analise these patterns.

Just for your own safety.

I also talked a lot with other women, subs and dominas alike,
about the men they have met
and their behaviour, and almost always their behaviour was just off...
not a emotional stable person,

Most of the time just nut cases.... dangerous people.

totally not aware of the amount of responsiblity a man should be able to hold,
when he wants to be involved in BDSM, in his life....

It is a great asset to recognise those behaviour patterns.
it kept me safe.
Study them, so you know were to look for, in some male behaviour patterns..

There are crazy fuck-up around here, to hunt for the vulnerable, naïef, easy in trust women....
They have a radar for that.

Be aware.
Keep yourself safe, there is no one else doing that for you.

Narcist dont want to wast too much time, they need the audiance,
so if you want to mail, message longer then their attention span goes
you are on the safe side...

Same goes for psychophates, they want to score now!
threatening you into submission... Whahaha!
using blackmail, anything goes.
no!

Telling all kind of lies just to get you were they want you,

No respect of your bounderies. your rights. as a human being.
Always pushing, always....
no respect....

A dominant has respect for this other human being
a dominant has patience
a dominant does not want to break you,
Unless that is a fetish for you.. Humiliation..... and him too!

a dominant wants to build you up.

a dominant wants to share his story with you, although he will be carefull
not to tell too much, before there is some real life trust build..
after the first meet, maybe...?
he wants to know ALL about you, and not just all about your sexual appetite.

There is a distinct difference in behaviour, between all those wannebees, vanillas without a clue, fakes, the whole DSM V catagorie....

and dominant men...

There are some safe very fine players, tops, who are worthy of your trust...
and they know that too...
They know what is needed to be a safe, conscious, fine person.

Nut cases, They used to Lock them up... Because they were mostly not equipped to be a stable, adult, emotional sane person, not able to function in this madhouse of a world...
The great big outside world, was most of the time not a place they felt safe in.
The rules were most of the time totally not clear to them......

nowadays they are allowed to life right smack in the middle of society...
With all the problems that comes with that....

I dont have all the answers.......
I can see the problem though.....

safe, sane, consensual.

rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
9/18/2018 8:39 am

every body has his or her own level of madness....
Thats how we cope..... i believe....

me too!


CandiceSweets 33T

9/18/2018 8:58 am

Very well written. I agree with you too!


slaveforyou365 63M  
4488 posts
9/18/2018 10:17 am



Slave rick


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
9/18/2018 12:44 pm

submarge,
thank you!
i was afraid the messenger would get shot! by writing this out loud!
thank you so much!


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
9/18/2018 12:46 pm

CandiceSweets,

thank you, it means a lot to me, to be understood about this item,
it can be very dangerous for the submissives out there... male, female or both...


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
9/18/2018 12:47 pm

slaveforyou365,

thanks!



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