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A Female Led Relationship..a topic that rarely gets talked about..i want your opinions It's sorta rare for anyone to talk about a FLR. I think it's because it sorta wide open..it can range from vanilla..to simple domestic discipline lifestyle..to full power exchange and ownership. A Female Lead Relationship is basically the woman wearing the pants in the family. Which at first may make some men balk.... BUT lets be honest guys..most relationship/ households are already controlled by Women. Most guys sheepish have to phone the wife before they go all tim the tool man taylor and buy any big purchase or tool. Most guys phone their wives about hanging out with the boys or going on a guy's get away. These men aren't telling their wives ...they are getting permission. Whens the last time you heard a wife ask a hubby for permission to buy shoes, clothes etc. She doesn't So lets not act like a woman being in control is this extreme fetish.. its most men's daily life. Im attracted to FL R because it removes the biggest problem in any relationship ....fighting Alot of times a guy will do or say something without processing how it affects her. She then internalizes it and stores up the ammo for a later fight. We all have been in arguements where she brings up how you left your dirty socks on the hamper six months ago. Now imagine a woman being in control of a relationship. I honestly would rather have a woman instantly confront me with some behavior that she didnt like. Id rather have her beat my ass red right now..then store up the anger and use it against me 3 months down the road. Hell 3 months from now i wont even remember the action. And 3 months from now does nothing to correct the behavior now that pissed her off. I could be making the same mistake groundhog style for 3 months. Say at night i threw my dirty clothes around the bedroom instead of putting them in a hamper. I am unaware this is making her mad...im not doing it on purpose to upset her. But it goes on night after night and she doesnt say anything. A FLR gives her the voice of authority...tensions between the couple can easily be resolved if she immediately puts out the fire..puts her foot down. She asserts her authority and corrects the behavior. The offense is dealt with, he is disciplined. His behavior changes and all is good. He becomes a better male. There is more harmony in the relationship I also like the idea that she is the household/ relationship decision maker. She may allow the male to voice an opinion..she may want his imput. But she makes the decision that is best for them. This really removes the burden from the male and reduces tension in the relationship. There is no hard feelings from the male because he knows she is right/ the leader. The problem with most relationships is they are still acting like indivuals instead of a team.. And by team i don't mean equals... You can't have two captains.. For something to operate efficiently you have to have a leader and a follower. The male has to submit.. The degree of the FLR is really up to her..but it honestly is A part of most households already..its very natural. I just believe the more authority she takes the smoother the relationship works..two heads arent better than one. |
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5/18/2019 8:29 am |
Lets be honest..as a male dealing with women.. It is easy to obey if it meant less fighting,less arguements, less tension,less confusion,etc. It is an easy trade off.. And to put this in context for women... Men basically don't allow things to build up..either we dont care what some other dude is doing,wearing,acting.. Or we instantly want to stop it...hence our first reaction is to fight. The FLR changes the dynamics of the relationship. It goes from the woman being reactive to proactive. Instead of being pissed off and hating..and then jumping onto twitter..lol She now becomes the problem solver. This is good because men can process anger in the now. We arent good piecing together why your mad from something we did 6 months ago Men are also better at processing physical discipline for an act instead of navigating a womans superior mental/ emotional brain. Men can process pain meaning your angry.. And it allows a woman a meants to vent her anger and frustration.. Alot better and more productive than twitter
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5/18/2019 8:41 am |
A truly healthy relationship is led by neither the man nor the woman (or whatever the case may be). It requires equal input from both sides, and compromise from both sides. It requires both sides to communicate the good and the bad to each other. The appearance of one dominating the other is a different story entirely, because it's just that, appearances.
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5/18/2019 9:00 am |
I am sorry Elentsumi, but you don't know what a FLR means, it is not, i say NOT Vanilla/Normal relationship. Please do your Homework first before opening your mouth.
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5/18/2019 9:06 am |
Thanks for your input...let's agree that most relationships aren't well oiled machines. There is a reason for the high divorce rate and all those therapist out there. Most couples argue,fight, stop the flow of communication,stop having sex etc. If both have an equal say and is " healthy", then why do the arguments continue? Why are women angry at men? I'm not suggesting a woman has to wear thigh high leather boots with a whip coming out of her ass.. Nor a male in the relationship be kept naked on a chain. The degree of the FLR depends on the Woman and how comfortable she is with being in charge. I didn't say the male doesn't have input. Im saying to reduce tensions in a relation it is better to have a decision maker. There is no need to fight..she is the leader. I made my case for say buying a new saw..she said no. Why should i get mad? She listened to me and made the decision best for us. She knows what is best for us and my trust in her decisions make a more harmonious relationship. We see this in everyday life..the wife says no cause the purchase is too expensive/ too foolish/ isnt needed. What your saying is there is no need for flr if couples are just open and honest and communicate etc..the couples can truly be equal etc.. ITS rare to find such a relationship... If nothing else a flr can force direct confrontation between the woman and the man..she can force him to talk about his feelings, his actions,why he did something. I disagree on just the appearance of dominance in the flr...it is dominance..it is control. The degree in which someone uses the head of household power can directly influence how the house/ the relationship operates.
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5/18/2019 9:21 am |
To take it to it's purest form.. If you want something to make you happy,run smoothly you have to gets your hands dirty and have various levels of control over it. No one would blink if i was talking about this as a ceo of a corporation. If your willing to do this for a business then why wouldn't you do this for your relationship. What is wrong with getting the relationship you desire by controlling the outside influences. In this case the male. Most women desire change in their man. So why are we sticker shocked when the flr actually gives her the power to do so And it's not a win win for the ladies and a loss loss for men...being under a woman's control can be liberating for a man.. If anything it helps him better understand women.
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I think what you're saying makes a lot of sense. I agree with you that most men already look for permission to do almost anything anyway. If the woman were to actually totally take the lead, including punishment and airing out issues, that a lot of mystery over her suppressed anger could be eliminated. Get it out, say it, fuck yes, tie me up and paddle my ass while you vent about whatever your issue is. But then put it behind you and move on for everyones sake. Could solve a lot of problems, most men I know don't even pretend otherwise anyway, we all know the pussy controls us, go ahead and totally control us.
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