Quoting drmgirl622:

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This really hits home......I realized, after much heartbreak and disappointment, that people sometimes just don't get it. Sure, life gets in the way but just 10 minutes.....that would mean so much or...….reciprocate, just once. I admit to being a little jaded now but there isn't any disappointment.

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This behavior does trigger in me not a small bit of anger. But if I can calm that, resisting the urge to project forward and say "this person will eventually" -- if I can null out all the mechanisms of displacement, and simply look (and relook) at the behavior itself; that vision brings peace and not a small amount of strength to move beyond it. All in the context of 9mm scenarios ... Thanks for visiting. tgd

Quoting SylviaSoulier:

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Being selfless and kind should be enough to heal others from their lack of empathy. As you have discovered energy can be wasted.

It seems to me that you have a history of being kind to others (possibly) without it being reciprocated.

Maybe kindness to self involves being ruthless about who we share energy with?

It took me too long to separate myself from people who sucked the life from me. I’m cynical now ❤️

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There is a mode in life of making kindness and generousity strictly premeditated. I've always rejected that because by its nature it invalidates the kindness. But I do know I'm in the minority on this. Interesting comment about my possible history. I'd like to hear more about that certainly. I will say that the person above would have been rejected out of hand as an associate within 5 minutes of the first encounter. But given the life history and his circumstances, I chose to stay engaged. I expect more out of people until I consider them a friend. But, again, where you found the word "history" interests me. Thanks for visiting. tgd

Quoting SylviaSoulier:

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To be a historian, I should be able to examine the information and data in your writings and draw logical conclusions from them. I have not read everything that you have written over the 7 plus years that I have been here. When I read this post I remembered two very specific posts which informed my comment above (I can't remember the dates as yet).

There was a post where you described meeting someone who you help financially and periodically, altruistically. A benefactor for no reason other than to give something to someone who needed what you had to give.

In another post you drew attention to a female friend, a submissive (who may no longer be active here) who was looking for a dominant partner and you championed her search. I remember you writing that she was too tall for you or that you were too short for her. I sat wondering why height would be an issue. On and off since reading the post I hoped that she had found what she was looking for.

Still I am surprised that you have not found what you are looking for. I wonder occasionally whether by giving of ourselves too much and too freely to others we evaporate our own essential energy.

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You have a very good memory. I have a hard time remembering what I ate yesterday. As for your last "essential energy" contemplation, my spirit rebels at that concept, but (without sarcasm) I lack the essential energy to organize my thoughts beyond some adolescent rant. I suppose I might say that Life is more difficult than people expect, and draining events aren't so much our own doing as the doing of our environment. Yet we press on to live on and give on. Thanks for returning to reply. tgd

Quoting aHedonist:

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You are one of the better human beings to grace this planet: don't stop being you.

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What an extraordinary compliment. Thank you. tgd

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Sometimes one knows one has something significant to say ... sometimes one walks, hands outstretched, through the darkness. Thanks for your appreciation, and ... Thanks for visiting. tgd